Re: [Paddlewise] etiquette

From: Dave Kruger <dkruger_at_pacifier.com>
Date: Thu, 09 Jul 1998 09:31:42 -0700
Mark Zen wrote:
> 
> > do that many
> > people really wait until thursday & friday to call the coordinator??

> >what sayest you all??

Yeah, lots of folks who are "hot to paddle this weekend" have not made a
commitment (in their minds) equivalent to what a considerate human being
should.

Your status as a rep of the paddling club complicates things, but, FWIW,
here is the way I operate for simple weekend paddles:

1. Announce trip to buddies/potential paddling partners a couple weeks
ahead of time.

2. Make my own preparations (food, tent partner, shuttle, etc.) for me
and my own self-contained unit -- usually my SO and me.  Sometimes one
other person I KNOW honors commitments.

3. Make NO other arrangements for others, *including lodging, ferry
reservations, etc.*  Leave all that up to them.  If they make them, they
benefit from the arrangements.

4. Evening before the drive to launch point:  tally phone calls to me to
get a count of paddlers and where/when we will meet.

This process filters out the flakes.  In my experience, lots of folks,
these days, treat their obligations lightly.  Those that do, do not get
invited a third time (I give 'em two chances).

For longer trips, or for distant places, I arrange to extract some cash
-- to defray my ahead-of-time investment in ferry reservations, campsite
fees, food costs, etc. -- WAY ahead of time.  In my experience, the cash
makes people think a little more realistically about their interest in
the trip.  After I have been on a trip with someone, then I know whether
they honor their commitments, and the rules change.

I like the old adage:  "First time you screw me over, it's your fault. 
Second time, it's MY fault."

-- 
Dave Kruger
Astoria, OR
crusty old booger-dude
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