Re: [Paddlewise] Apology to Bayside Bob

Elaine





Actually, the subject did come up. I asked if she was happy with her paddle or
did she want to check out a new one. She looked at both the FG and carbon
paddles and said she really didn't see the need for a change (for herself)
but if I wanted a new one - fine, buy it.





The following week we went paddling together and she asked to try my new
paddle and fell in love with it. She then started thinking back to the words
of the salesman in the store who (noticing that I was leaning towards the FG
version) kept saying that they sold more of the carbon paddles to women
because they were not as strong as fiberglass and wouldn't hold up to a man's
use. No amount of talking on my part could convince her that in my opinion the
difference in strength between FG and carbon was not significant. To me the
weight savings as just not enough to justify the difference in cost.





My wife does have a weakened rotator cusp from an injury about a year and a
half ago and she's right about the weight difference being of importance to
her. As long as she feels or thinks that something is important than it is. I
don't think that I have the right to tell her what she can and can't think or
do for that matter. She's an equal partner in our marriage and if she wants
something, she doesn't have to clear it with me first. We both know how much
discretionary income there is and there had not been a problem with who spends
a portion of it.





I agree with you completely about how much time with the "boys" is a
reasonable amount. We have found that what works for us is not only my getting
time off to do some of the things that I enjoy but my wife also gets time
alone to do things she enjoys that I don't.





As you implied, in order for a relationship to work there has to be a lot of
communication. And if I implied otherwise, I wouldn't trade my wife or
marriage for anything. (except maybe another kayak -grin)


  I've been reading this thread with some amusement and some dismay. Don't


  spouses discuss these things like who gets to spend what share of


  discretionary funds, and how much time out with "the boys" is reasonable?





  Snip








  Case in point: did her wanting a paddle as well come up when you were


  getting yours? and if not, why not? Games?


  Elaine Harmon - eilidh_at_dc.seflin.org - eharmon_at_cs.miami.edu











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