Re: [Paddlewise] more on JFK Jr.

Jackie Fenton wrote:
> 
> Usually, those in higher profile have been aware for some time about having
> their words quoted or misquoted whether written or otherwise.  Fortunately, in
> this case it appears that Ralph was quoted verbatum.  I'm impressed.  And
> I'm surprised.  Who was the author, Ralph?

Three authors are listed and perhaps one is a subscriber to either of
the listservers, PaddleWise or Nyckayaker.  J.D. Reed; Kyle Smith; and
Jill Smolowe.

David Kruger wrote
> > What do you say, listmom?  Am I overreacting?
> 
> That's for you to decide.  Some people are very passionate about not having
> their words appear somewhere they didn't intend for them to appear.  So
> they would not think you are over-reacting.  I think you are right to be
> concerned or angered about having your words forwarded to another public
> forum without your permission.

I think the lesson here is not not to post but rather something else. 
Don't be concerned about posting when you can contribute something but
be certain to:

--make your thoughts clear and precise as you can;

--be careful about loaded words such as saying reckless (which I
avoided) that do no good, muddy the waters and whatever point you want
to get across;

--if your posting is about some specific person, identified or
anonymous, write as if that person will read it;

--write as if your worse enemy or critic will read it...leave him/her no
ammunition to use against you, i.e. be honest, forthright and fair and
you will have nothing to fear;

--most importantly, make certain that what you say contributes in some
positive way to some good.

I think a lot of the discussion around JFK Jr of a few months ago and
now has been honest, forthright and fair.  So congratulations all
around.  I use to work with a woman whose biggest compliment was to
refer to some one as a "grown-up"...I think a lot of PaddleWisers are
grown-ups (well, with the exception of a few who I won't name...:-))

cheers,

ralph diaz
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