[Paddlewise] Inactive Mates.

Boy can I relate to this thread!

      I also live with a nonactive wife. I knew what I was getting into when 
we got married, and I still love her. I spend time with my wife and second 
with my boat. I will not give up my activities, I just need to be flexible. I 
am sure that my priorities are in order. ahem.
       We have three kayaks in the garage right now and my wife has never sat 
in any of them. We have 4 bikes, 2 of my 3 have been run into the ground and 
her 3 yr old Diamond Back still has the nubbies on the tires. (I ride it 
lovingly now)
       I have a paddling partner, a single professional female, who's company 
I enjoy immensely. I find that I have to schedule my trips for times when my 
wife is working or has some event to attend. I feel guilty leaving her alone, 
even if I am paddling alone. I have to take care of her first.
       It can be difficult wanting to talk about my days activities with a 
person who could not care less about something I love to do. So I find other 
places to chat about my hobbies, other friends, other listservers.
       I love being outside, she is a homebody. I love to kayak, bike and 
snowshoe until 3 AM, she wants a treadmill in front of the TV.
       We have our differences, but make time for each other. It is awkward 
and sometimes strained, but we make it work. We promised.


       Inactive Mates and Kayaks, the delicate balance.

       Phil Huck
       huck_at_mhd1.moorhead.msus.edu
       thekayaker_at_yahoo.com


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